Berean Break
April 19, 2015 broadcast
Have You Found Your Soul-mate?
by George Sinkie
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Good morning and welcome once again
to the Berean Break. My
name is George A. Sinkie and I am so glad that you have joined
us this morning. I
hope that our time together this morning is profitable for you
and I know it will be if you do a couple of things.
First, we have to enter all study
of the Bible with an open mind and heart, or we will never grow
spiritually.
Second, we need to open our Bibles
and check out what is taught. Is
it the truth? Does
it harmonize with the Word? By
far the majority of the religious teaching in the world today
does not teach truth about God or His will. So
we need to check it out. As
we begin this morning, lets go to God in prayer:
Great God in heaven, we thank
You for this day. We
thank You for the Springtime and the growth taking place.
We thank You for the moisture
we have received and pray for the continued blessing of rain.
Lord, just as we see the growth
around us, may we too grow in Your will. We
come to You now in the authority of Jesus, AMEN!!
Recently
a number of people that I know have announced that they are in
a relationship or that they have gotten engaged. While these are great events in
peoples lives, I need to know more before I can rejoice
with them. Even if
you are already in a relationship or are married, this is an
important lesson to se if Gods will is being followed.
This lesson is mainly looking
at entering into a marriage, but even in regard to those we enter
into relationships with, we want to be pleasing to God.
Marriage is the second oldest relationship
known to man. The oldest
is mans relationship with God Himself. In
Genesis 2, we see God creating the Garden of Eden for Adam to
live in, providing food for Adam, and giving him work to do.
God did not want Adam to be
alone and so they looked for a suitable helper. Note Genesis 2:18-20, Then the LORD God said,
It
is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper
suitable for him.
And out of the ground the
LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the
sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them;
and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name.
And the man gave names to
all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast
of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable
for him.
When no suitable helper was found
among the animals, God created woman, this is recorded in Genesis
2:21-22, So
the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he
slept; then He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh
at that place. And the LORD God fashioned into
a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought
her to the man.
By this we see that Gods
design for marriage in a relationship between one man and one
woman.
We also need to understand that
Gods design is for this man and woman who are marrying
to enter into a covenant.
God speaks of this in Malachi 2:14, Yet you say, For what reason?
Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the
wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously,
though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.
This is what we are going to call
a covenant marriage. When
we follow Gods plan for marriage, it results in a marriage
that God joins together, and no one should separate it, as Jesus
says in Matthew 19:6, Consequently
they are no longer two, but one flesh.
What
therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.
But we also need to understand
that not every marriage that people enter into is a covenant
marriage. Some, like
the marriage that Herod and Herodius had, are not acceptable
to God, Matthew writes of this in Matthew 14:3-4, For when Herod had John
arrested, he bound him, and put him in prison on account of Herodias,
the wife of his brother Philip.
For
John had been saying to him, It is not lawful for you to
have her.
Marriages like these marriages
we are going to call adulterous marriages. The
vast majority of marriages actually fall into this later category.
First, lets consider a couple
of things that do NOT make a marriage a covenant marriage.
Number one: The one preforming
the marriage (priest, preacher, justice of the peace, etc.)
said it was before God and that God was joining them together.
Just because man says something
doesnt make it true, it has to be in harmony with Gods
will.
Number two: The two people are
madly in love, they believe they have found their soul-mate.
This goes right along with
the I feel it is right in my heart mentality.
That warm fuzzy feeling is
no indication the marriage is acceptable to God.
Next, lets consider the question,
who can enter into a covenant marriage?
Since God designed marriage,
He also gives rules and regulations governing it. We need to look at ALL of Gods
teaching and obey it in order to have a covenant marriage, which
is the only kind of marriage that God joins together.
ALL other marriages are a
sin in Gods sight, they are NOT joined by God, and must
be separated or ended because they are sin. According
to the Word of God there are only three conditions that a person
can be in and enter into a Covenant marriage.
Condition one: A person who has
never been in a Covenant marriage God would allow to enter a
Covenant marriage. Basically
this would refer to someone who has never been married before.
But there could be the situation
where they have never been married, then they marry a spouse
who is not able to enter a covenant marriage (divorced for
a cause other than adultery by their spouse, see condition three
below). Since this
spouse could not enter a covenant marriage, this marriage resulted
in an adulterous marriage that should be ended. When this marriage ends both parties
go to the condition they were in before the marriage.
The one who had never been
married before still has never been in a covenant marriage.
The one divorced before for
a cause other than adultery still cannot enter a covenant marriage.
I suppose, because of the
times we live in, it should be mentioned that homosexual marriages
can NEVER be covenant marriages. They
are not really adulterous marriages either. They
are simple fornicating relationships. They
are sin and should be stopped, and the person is in the same
condition as they were before these relationships.
Condition two: Someone who has
been married before, in a covenant marriage, and their spouse
has died. Paul relates
this in Romans 7:1-3. Note
especially verse 3, So
then if, while her husband is living, she is joined to another
man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies,
she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress, though
she is joined to another man.
Condition three: Someone who has
been married before, in a covenant marriage and their spouse
was unfaithful to them and violated the covenant, while they
remained faithful. In
such a case where there is a divorce, the faithful party can
remarry in a covenant marriage. The
unfaithful party can never enter another covenant marriage, any
marriage they enter into would be a sinful, adulterous marriage.
Matthew records Jesus speaking
of this in Matthew 19:1-10. Here
we need to note especially verse 9, where Jesus says, And I say to you, whoever
divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another
woman commits adultery.
This is also spoken about
by Jesus in Matthew 5:31-32, note verse 32, but I say to you that
everyone who divorces his wife, except for the cause of unchastity,
makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman
commits adultery.
There are also three other conditions
a person may be in, but these conditions do NOT allow a person
to enter into a covenant marriage.
Condition four: In this condition,
the person was in a covenant marriage, and their spouse leaves
them. Paul speaks of
this in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, But to the married I give instructions,
not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband
(but if she does leave, let her remain unmarried, or else be
reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not send
his wife away.
Some may call this the abandonment
exception, but note that Paul give two options remain
unmarried OR be reconciled. Just
because their spouse leaves does NOT allow a person to enter
another covenant marriage.
Condition five: A person was in
a covenant marriage, and neither they nor their spouse were unfaithful,
and they got a divorce. Neither
party would be able to enter another covenant marriage.
(They could reconcile and
reestablish their original covenant marriage.) These
would be marriages ended because the couple just dont love
each other any more, they have irreconcilable differences, alcoholism,
abuse, etc. Jesus speaks
of these in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-10, as we looked
at before, they are not a part of the exception that Jesus gives
and so any subsequent marriage would be committing adultery,
or as we are calling it, an adulterous marriage. In this condition the person could
NOT enter into a covenant marriage.
And finally, condition six, this
is the guilty party in the situation we looked at in condition
three. Jesus again
presents this in Matthew 5:31-32 and Matthew 19:1-10.
They were in a covenant marriage
but committed adultery, thereby violating that covenant.
If a divorce follows this
breaking of the covenant (it doesnt have to, but if it
does), then the violator of the covenant CANNOT enter into another
covenant marriage.
So, who can enter a covenant marriage?
ONLY people are in one of
the first three conditions can enter into covenant marriages.
Both the man and the woman
have to be in one of the first three conditions. If one or both of the individuals
are in conditions four, five, or six, then no covenant marriage
can result.
Being a soul-mate (or helpmeet
or suitable helper) is not a matter of feeling or emotion, it
is a matter of submission to Gods will and a complete commitment
to the covenant that marriage is intended to be.
This Berean Break is brought to
you, in love, by the pre-denominational and non-denominational
church of Christ that meets at 1600 East First Ave. in Mitchell
SD. You are welcome
to meet with us at 10:00 Sunday Mornings for our assembly followed
by a time of Bible Study, also on Wednesday evenings at 6:30
for an additional time to study God's Word. If
you have a comment or a sincere Bible question, please phone
us at 605-770-5555.
We want to remind you of the non-denominational
TV program, "KNOW YOUR BIBLE" on KDLT-TV at 9:00 on
Sunday mornings. This
is George A. Sinkie for the Lord's church, here in Mitchell,
good-bye for now. Remember
that we care about you and may God bless you as you do His will.
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