Firming Your Foundation
Study Outline: Me before
us makes a mess
by David Churchill
How am I handling relationship
problems in the church?
(Matt. 7:1-5)
1. Jesus prayed for our unity and
wants us to get along (John 17:1-26; Rom.12)
2. we are called to unity in the
church (1Cor.1:10-13; Phil.1:27-2:18; Eph.4:1-6)
3. God gives each of us different
abilities & strengths for building up the church
(Rom.12:1-21;
1Cor.12:12-27; Eph.4:7-32; Gal.6:1-10; Heb.10:24-25)
I. Does the problem involve the basic needs of people?
A. We are safe & secure in
Christ Rom.8:1-2,31-39; Gal. 3:26-29; Col. 1
B. We are valuable, important,
& significant to Christ Rom.5:6-11,6:11,6:23,8:28
C. We are able & resourceful
with Christ Rom.6:1-14; Phil.4:13; Isaiah 59; Lam.3:21-25;
Eph.1:3,2:8-10; Gal.2:20; 2Tim.3:16-17
D. We are challenged & motivated
by Christ Jn.12:44-50; Rom.5:1-5; 2Pet.3:14-18; 1Tim.1:13;
2Tim.2:15,4:1-5
II. Does the problem involve the base personalities of people?
A. Personality tools: functional
individuals and groups learn & encourage a balanced use of
opposite tools
(generally
speaking: accomplishing solutions to problems requires
people to be decisive, energetic, and highly passionate about
their motivations;
whereas
identifying solutions to problems requires people to be
observant, sedentary and reasonably objective about their motivations)
1.
Introvert vs. Extrovert world in which one
functions best, inner or outer
Lam.3:26;
Matt.6:1-6; Rom.12:3-21; Col.1:3-12; 1Thes.5:25-27; Jas.5:13-20;
1Pet.4:8-11
2.
Thinking/Reasons vs. Feeling/Values basis
for making decisions, i.e. influencing outer world
Rom.10:1-3;
2Cor.2:1-11;Phil.3:1;4:4; Heb.10:30-34;11:1ff; 1Pet.2:1-3
3.
Contemplate/Meditate vs. Experience/Participate
basis for making observations, i.e. learning from outer
world
Rom.1:20-21;
2Cor.4:17-18; Phil.4:8; Heb.10:1-2;12:1-8; Jas 2:14-26; 1Pet.1:10-20;
2Pet.1:5-8
4.
Decide vs. Observe interaction with outer
world (influence vs. learn)
2Cor.7:10-11;
Jas 5:7-11; 2Pet.3:9; 1Jn.4:1; Rev.6:9-11; Josh.24:14-15
5.
Details/Specifics vs Summary/Big Picture
information level to handle
(compare
the brief big picture writing of James, Johns,
and Peters letters with the lengthier specifics of Pauls
letters and the letter to the Hebrews; compare how the gospel
writers record details and summaries in anticipation of the readers
needs)
6.
Sedentary/Sluggish vs. Active/Lively energy
/ speed level
Jn.11:1-45;
Acts 22:16, 17-21; 1Cor.16; 2Cor.6:2; Gal.5:5-7,13-16; Phil.3:20-21;
1Cor.12:12-27
too
low is lazy; too much is wasteful
Prov.10:4-5;12:11,27;13:4;15:19;16:26;18:9;19:15,24
Prov.20:4;21:5,25;22:13;24:30-34;26:13-16
7.
Lead vs. Follow influence/position to other
people
Matt.7:7-29;
Rom.13:1-10; Phil.3:16-17;4:9; Col.1:13-23; 2Thes.1:6-8; 1Tim.3;
2Tim.4:1-2; Tit.1:5-9;2:15;3:12; Heb.13:7,17; 1Pet.1:22-23
8.
Responsibility vs. Privilege motivating
values; i.e. passions
Matt.5:43-38;
2Cor.5:14-21; Gal.2:20; Eph.1;6:10-20; Phil.1:19-30;2:1-16; 1Thes.5:5-23;
1Tim.2:1-4; Tit.3:3-11,14; Jas.2:14;4:1-3,4-10,11-17; 2Pet.1:1-4
B. Upbringing / Background
Prov.22:6; 1Tim.4:6-11; 2Tim.1:3-5; 2Pet.1:3-11
C. Physical strengths/weaknesses
Eph.5:17-18; 1Tim.5:23; 2Tim.chapters 2&3
D. Mental strengths/weaknesses
Prov.12:15,16; Rom.14:19-15:6; 2Tim. chapters 2&3
III. Does the problem involve a lack of productive communication?
A. Content B.
Competes
C. Consideration D.
Clears
E. Consistency F.
Completes
G. Conciseness H.
Continues
IV. Does the other persons behavior that disturbs me
qualify as sin?
A. Yes, definitely
is a sin
1.
What is the sin specifically and is he/she still doing it?
2.
Is the sin a reaction to my sin or someone elses sin in
the church?
3.
Have I (or others in the church) in some way pressured or encouraged
this person to sin?
4.
Am I aware of what the Bible teaches about
a.
my responsibilities concerning fellow Christians living
in sin?
b.
the churchs responsibilities concerning fellow Christians
living in sin?
5.
Have I approached this person about the specific sinful behavior?
6.
Have I invited and offered to help this person repent?
7.
Does this person trust the church and me to forgive if he/she
repents?
B. Not yet (or not
sure), but I expect it will eventually if left unchecked
1.
Have I tried to warn this person and tried to encourage him/her
to do better?
2.
Is my behavior (or anothers) setting up this person to
sin?
a.
if mine, am I willing to change?
b.
if anothers, am I willing to intervene and to reconcile
these people as fellow Christians?
3.
Have I plainly told this person of my need for him/her
to do the right thing?
4.
If this person follows my example and my reasoning, will he/she
do better or worse?
5.
Am I expecting this person to sin simply because Ive decided
I dont like him/her?
C. No, definitely not
a sin
1.
Why am I dissatisfied with this particular behavior of this particular
person?
2.
Have I talked to him/her and tried to understand why he/she does
this behavior?
3.
Regarding what I need to do to meet my own responsibilities,
does this behavior hinder me?
a.
if yes, am I willing to discuss with him/her in terms of my
problem and my needs?
b.
if no, am I willing to change my expectations or my feelings
enough to accept it?
4.
What am I doing to encourage and to build up this person as a
fellow Christian? |