What Would Grandpa Say?
editor's note: Published in the August 2013 issue of Think
magazine, used by authors permission.]
by Jim Mettenbrink
curse of pornography did not begin with the internet, but is seen on the
ancient vases in Greek museums and the ancient sculptures of Corinth and
Ephesus. Pornography blatantly
adorned the walls of the homes preserved in the AD 79 eruption of Mt Vesuvius
at Pompeii. Although the dictionary
states the root word for pornography is a combination of the French porne
and the Greek graphos, meaning writing about prostitutes,
the root porne actually comes from the ancient Greek porneia
meaning unlawful sex, or any sexual activity outside the marriage of a man
and a woman. Literally, pornography
is writing about prohibited sex. However,
referring to the 7th commandment in His sermon on the mountain, Jesus said,
But I say
to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed
adultery with her in his heart.
Merely looking at a woman who is not
your wife, with unlawful sexual desires is a mental sin adultery.
Looking is the key.
A person can look at a modestly dressed woman
with admiration of her beauty and character without causing sexual desires.
On the other hand, when a woman dresses
in such a fashion as to cause lust, she sins for at least two reasons.
She has let her Christian light go out,
and, she causes men to look, leading to lust, even when they
have no desire to do so, thus she is a cause to their sin.
In the same sermon, Jesus declared, The lamp of the body is the eye. If
therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But
if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness (Matthew 6:22-23). The
eye fills the mind of each of us. It
is indeed the door to our heart. Everything
about you the person comes from the depths of your spirit Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life
(Proverbs 4:23). The greatest
challenge of life!
Grandpa says Guarding your heart
begins with guarding your eyes, what you simply see.
Most societies are image conscious, thus
advertising begins with the visual. When
you first see a person, you observe how he/she is dressed. T-shirt logos exist because of this fact.
The expression, Clothes make the
man acknowledges the impression made through our eyes. Now regarding pornography and our eyes.
Can a persons clothes be pornographic?
What is pornographic and what is not?
The word modesty immediately brings to mind,
modest clothing. The reason is
the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation,
not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing (1 Timothy 2:9), which obviously applies
to how women dress. In summary,
the meaning is to dress appropriately, which to the Christian means to dress
so as not to cause unlawful sexual desires in others. Do
your clothes stir people to have thoughts of fornication?
It is ironic that folks dress their little
girls in short dresses, then as they enter the teens, parents insist that
girls dress modestly, that is, they cover their bodies so as not to be sexually
provocative. That is where the
battle begins parent vs teen! In
a 2007 study, a researcher for the primary religious pollster, George Barna,
stated, Our studies show that the faith principles and practices
that a child absorbs by age thirteen boldly shapes their spirituality for
the duration of their life. The
seeds of dressing immodestly were planted by the parents, then as the child
grows, the parents want a caterpillar to butterfly transformation.
The divinely inspired wise man wrote
a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from
it (Proverbs 22:6).
That training, teaching and discipline
starts at birth and must be consistent. Modesty
must be part of this training.
In 1960, the most beautiful girl in high school,
who was smart and an excellent student to whom all were attracted, dared
to shorten her dress to reveal just a part of her kneecap. All of us boys could not wait to see her come
into the room, to incite our porno thoughts. Shortly
thereafter, British designer Mary Quandt introduced, or better stated, seduced,
the willing womanhood into the miniskirt
the boys loved it or more candidly, foamed lustily at the mouth for it.
At that time she said, the miniskirt
declares that a girl is willing, its simply a matter of her choice with
whom. Her basic attitude was,
Good taste is death; vulgarity life. In
that same interview, she was asked What is the point of fashion, where
is it leading? She replied,
Sex. In 1988, she
stated her aim was, to dress women so men would feel like tearing
the wrapping off. In other
words to incite thoughts of fornication. Now
the world is drowning in lust. We
often see runners in their sports garb. Never
mind the short, short sports shorts! This
summer, I saw a college student in training, running down the main street
in her bikini. Was she a person
or an object?
A 2009 Princeton psychology study of the effects
of fully clothed women versus those in bikinis on young men revealed that
viewing women in bikinis activated brain regions associated with objects
or things you manipulate with your hands,.... Women were
transformed from persons to objects!
When a woman asks, Is this too short?,
or too tight?, or show too much?, what is she revealing
about herself? She wants to present
herself as a piece of meat for consumption! The
godless attitude of Humanism (I am my own god, so do as I desire)
now prompt, I will dress as I want to, your thoughts are your problem!
Remember, immodesty changes a woman into
real life pornography an object, no longer a person. It also reveals a lack of love your
Ultimately, your love for your neighbor begins
with your concern for his thoughts.
In this society how can a man guard his thoughts?
After all, the pornographic revue begins
at the Walmart parking lot, or the Sunday newspaper ads...or ...does it
begin when your daughter or wife walks out of the house each day?
What are they advertising?
Commentator Michelle Malkin sharply stated,
From Madonna, to Britney and Christina, to the under-dressed teens
at the mall, legions of girls have been raised to believe that letting it
all hang out is the only true path to womanhood....The era of radical feminist
sexual liberation has produced a generation of shameless skanks.
She further admonished, Where
were their mamas and dadas to teach them that slutty is not
is the Christlike love of husbands and fathers to ensure their wives and
daughters are not contributing to mens mental sin? Grandpa
says, Girls, present yourself as you would to Jesus, not as