Questions & Answers
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editor's preface: One of our readers sent in the following
question: Does man have to confess his sin to another
man? Meaning, if you tell a lie, is asking God for forgiveness
enough? Or do you have to confess to the person whom you
lied to? As with any question concerning what
we hope to learn from the Bible, we must always strive to apply
good hermeneutics and to let the Bible interpret itself.
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To whom and
how should one confess sin?
by David Churchill
I
like the general thought of our readers question for at
least two reasons:
1.
This question rightly challenges popular denominational
practice. Several denominations teach their members
to confess their sins to some supervising clergy
or member in order to have those sins absolved, cleansed,
purged, exonerated, expunged,
or (whatever particular word they use to describe how these
people distribute forgiveness of the members sins).
This degrading practice for confession has
no Bible-based instruction or concern at heart, but easily becomes
a twisted means of controlling the membership
often by
using this confidentially-gained information to intimidate or
even to threaten members into submitting to the wishes of their
denominations leaders.
2. This question reminds
us as individuals to study the Bible for ourselves. As
people faithfully trying to seek out and obey Gods instructions
for Christians, we have a right and a responsibility to question
& examine everything taught and practiced by our churches
in light of Gods word. Where a churchs specific
teaching or practice obeys what the New Testament Scriptures
command Christians to do, we should encourage them to continue
that. Where a churchs specific efforts and activities
fit within what those same Scriptures allow or even suggest Christians
to do (i.e. is ok with God), we should accommodate
their freedom to do so. Where a churchs specific
teaching or practice or effort or activity disobeys the New Testaments
instructions from God, we should refuse and discourage it by
teaching them from the Bible what is correct and authorized by
God.
The short answer:
Does man have to confess
his sin to another man? Meaning, if you tell a lie, is
asking God for forgiveness enough? Or do you have to confess
to the person whom you lied to?
As I mentioned earlier, there is
no Bible-based instruction for the denominational practice of
confessing sins to a clergy person or other supervising member
in order to be excused. In the New Testament the only person
we find God authorizing to manage and dispense Gods forgiveness
on His behalf is Jesus Himself. Instead, He expects us
to learn how we are to forgive those who wrong us
in imitation
of how Jesus forgives us (Acts 2:38; Acts 5:27-31; Colossians
3:12).
There certainly are situations
where Christians definitely should confess their sins to Him
and to other Christians. God has provided instructions
concerning how, whom, and why to confess. The goal of His
instructions is to help restore and reconcile the sinners
relationships with Himself and with other Christians. The
sins are confessed to those persons (including God) whose
knowledge and concerned interest of the situation require their
involvement in this process of repentance, restoration, and reconciliation.
Once these sins have been forgiven, there is no Scriptural
reason to keep confessing them.
These instructions also imply why,
in some situations, attempting to confess sins to some people
can be a waste of time and may even cause harm instead of good.
In short, Bible-based confession
involves repentance by the sinner
invites forgiveness from those who already know about and/or
who are affected by the sin
seeks faithful growth in the Lord.
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The indepth answer:
Digging into the Scriptures:
First of all, we need to make sure
we are using this word confess as the Bible uses
it. Nowadays, to say I confess something usually
means I admit to doing something wrong. However,
the Bible uses I confess something with the broader
meaning of I admit or acknowledge or recognize a fact
as being true or correct. [dgc: in the passages we will be looking
at today, Ive highlighted certain portions to more quickly
identify how they relate to the point at hand.]
In 1 Kings 8:22, Solomon begins
a prayer to God at the dedication of the new temple. When Your people Israel
are defeated before an enemy because they have sinned against
You, Solomon prays
in verses 33-34, and
when they turn back to You and confess Your name, and
pray and make supplication to You in this temple, then hear in
heaven, and forgive the sin of Your people Israel, and bring
them back to the land which You gave to their fathers. When the heavens are
shut up and there is no rain because they have sinned against
You, he continues
in verses 35-36, when
they pray toward this place and confess Your name, and
turn from their sin because You afflict them, then hear in heaven,
and forgive the sin of Your servants, Your people Israel, that
You may teach them the good way in which they should walk; and
send rain on Your land which You have given to Your people as
an inheritance.
How is Solomon using the word confess
here? Hes saying that when the people finally do
repent from their sin and turn back to God, they must also confess
Gods name
in other words, they must
admit or acknowledge or recognize
His authority as the one and only true living God.
Obviously, in this case, the peoples confession acknowledging
Gods authority as their master includes admitting both
the fact of their sins and the fact of their repentance.
In the book of Job, chapter 40,
God issues a challenge to Job demanding an answer as to whether
Job can do the things that only God do. If Job can, Then I will also confess
to you, the LORD
states in verse 14, that
your own right hand can save you.
In other words, God is willing to acknowledge something
about Job as true, but if and only if that something really is
true.
Jesus applies this usage of confession
to His true followers and Himself. Therefore whoever confesses
Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father
who is in heaven. But whoever denies Me before men,
him I will also deny before My Father who is heaven. we read Jesus say in Matthew 10:32-33.
Luke 12:8-9 records another occasion where Jesus speaks
this way, Also
I say to you, whoever confesses Me before men, him the
Son of Man also will confess before the angels of God.
But he who denies Me before men will be denied before
the angels of God.
Our confession is our admission of certain facts about
ourselves and God
in particular, that we obey God, and
therefore Jesus, as our Master. Jesus confession
is His acknowledgement that we are honestly admitting the truth.
This confessing
by us to
others about our relationship with Jesus and by Jesus Himself
in heaven to God and the angels about His relationship with us
involves more than mere words. The apostle Paul, when on
trial before the Roman governor Felix in Acts chapter 24, tells
Felix that what he is confessing affects both his worship and
his action. But
this I confess to you, that according to the Way which
they call a sect,
Paul admits in verses 14-16, so I worship the God of my fathers, believing
all things which are written in the Law and the Prophets.
I have hope in God, which they themselves also accept,
that there will be a resurrection of the dead, both of the just
and the unjust. This being so, I myself always strive
to have a conscience without offense toward God and men.
In his second letter to the church
in Corinth, Paul demonstrates how this ongoing confession is
part of a Christians obedience to Christs gospel,
is reflected in our acts of righteousness, and in turn brings
glory to God. Now
may He who supplies seed to the sower, and bread for food, supply
and multiply the seed you have sown and increase the fruits of
your righteousness,
he explains in 2 Corinthians 9:10-15, while you are enriched in everything
for all liberality, which causes thanksgiving through us to God.
For the administration of this service not only supplies
the needs of the saints, but also is abounding through many thanksgivings
to God, while, through the proof of this ministry, they glorify
God for the obedience of your confession to the gospel of
Christ, and for your liberal sharing with them and all men,
and by their prayer for you, who long for you because of the
exceeding grace of God in you. Thanks be to God for His
indescribable gift!
Our confession is a part of our obedience, a part of how
God changes our lives, and a part of how we point people to God.
In Isaiah 45:22-23 we read God
saying, Look
to Me, and be saved, all you ends of the earth! For I am
God, and there is no other. I have sworn by Myself; the
word has gone out of My mouth in righteousness, and shall not
return, that to Me every knee shall bow, every tongue shall
take an oath.
However, when we read how Paul quotes verse 23 in Romans
14:11, we discover that this oath is equated to a confession
of Gods authority and that authority must guide the Christians
actions. Beginning at verse 9, For to this end Christ died and rose
and lived again, that He might be Lord of both the dead and the
living. But why do you judge your brother? Or why
do you show contempt for your brother? For we shall all
stand before the judgment seat of Christ. For it is written:
As
I live, says the LORD, every knee shall bow to Me, and every
tongue shall confess to God. So then each of us shall give
account of himself to God.
Our confession to God is our oath of submission
our
promise of obedience
to His authority and judgment.
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Our confession to God is our acknowledgement
of certain facts about ourselves and God. Our confession
is motivated by our repentance
by our desire to correct
our course away from sin back to seeking Gods good guidance
and glory again. Our confession is a part of our obedience
and a part of how God changes our lives. Our confession
is our oath of submission to His authority and judgment.
Our confession to God is also a
conditional requirement of our salvation.
if you confess
with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart
that God has raised Him from the dead,
Paul wrote in Romans 10:9-10 to the church of Christ in
Rome, you
will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness,
and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
This condition does include honestly
recognizing and admitting our sins to God. Earlier in this
same letter to the church in Rome, Paul states plainly for all have sinned
and fall short of the glory of God
(Romans 3:23). David wrote in Psalm 32, Blessed is he whose transgression
is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man to
whom the Lord does not impute iniquity, and in whose spirit there
is no deceit. When I kept silent, my bones grew old through
my groaning all the day long. For day and night Your hand
was heavy upon me; my vitality was turned into the drought
of summer. I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity
I have not hidden. I said, I will confess
my transgressions to the Lord, and You forgave the iniquity
of my sin.
Solomon wrote in Proverbs 28:13,
He
who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses
and forsakes them will have mercy.
This is the message which we have heard
from Him, John
wrote to us in 1 John 1:5-10, that God is light and in Him is no darkness
at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and
walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But
if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship
with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses
us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin,
we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If
we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive
us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar,
and His word is not in us.
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We cannot be saved without Jesus
confessing us to His Father in heaven. What Jesus confesses
about us depends upon our confession of Him and God, which includes
confessing our sins and repentance to God. Our confession
of Jesus involves admitting the truth about ourselves, God, and
our relationship with God. God considers our confession
to Him as our oath or pledge of allegiance and uses this confession
to change our lives for the better. And our confession
must be ongoing until we die.
Let us hold fast the confession of our
hope
without wavering,
we are encouraged in Hebrews 10:23-25, for He who promised is
faithful. And let us consider one another in order to stir
up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves
together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another,
and so much the more as you see the Day approaching. The inspired writer then
reminds us of why this is so important, summarizing in verses
35-39 Therefore
do not cast away your confidence, which has great reward. For
you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the
will of God, you may receive the promise:
For yet a little while,
and He who is coming will come and will not tarry.
Now the just shall live by faith; but if anyone draws
back, My soul has no pleasure in him.
But we are
not of those who draw back to perdition, but of those who believe
to the saving of the soul.
When Christians lose their confession and die without their
confession, they die without their salvation.
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Weve seen clearly that we
must confess and acknowledge our sins to God. But do we
have any instructions about confession concerning other people?
In other words, when and why should we confess our sins
to other people?
One instruction and
reason to confess our sins to other Christians is to
gain their prayers on our behalf.
Confess your trespasses to one another, and
pray for one another,
James wrote in James 5:16 to all Christians, that you may be healed.
The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails
much.
Notice the one another? This particular combination
of confessing and praying is a mutual thing
Christians
approaching each other as equals with shared concern for each
other. Christians fervently praying towards God for each others
forgiveness and improvement.
And what is the result of these
Christians in unity seeking healing for their sins together
seeking forgiveness together? God acknowledges them as
righteous people and grants their prayer
He forgives them. A very far cry from the denominational
practice of reporting sins to a superior who claims the authority
to assign and distribute Gods forgiveness. How unrealistic
and dishonest is such man-made practice! How much simpler
and more helpful are Gods instructions in His written word.
A second reason is
to gain forgiveness from those people who know weve
wronged them.
We read in Ephesians 4:31, Let all bitterness, wrath,
anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all
malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving
one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. This thought is also expressed
in Colossians 3:12-17. Therefore, as the elect of God, holy
and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness,
longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving
one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even
as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above
all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.
And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which
also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let
the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching
and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual
songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And
whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the
Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
A third reason is
to keep our own worship acceptable to God. Jesus
addressed this very issue of how our sin against a fellow Christian
can hinder Gods acceptance of our worship, especially if
that person holds it against us before God.
Read with me in Matthew 5:21-26,
You
have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall
not murder, and whoever murders will be in danger of the judgment.
But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without
a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever
says to his brother, Raca! shall be in danger of
the council. But whoever says, You fool! shall
be in danger of hell fire. Therefore if you bring your
gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something
against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and
go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and
then come and offer your gift. Agree with your adversary
quickly, while you are on the way with him, lest your
adversary deliver you to the judge, the judge hand you over
to the officer, and you be thrown into prison. Assuredly,
I say to you, you will by no means get out of there till you
have paid the last penny.
A fourth reason is
that as Christians confess their sins to those Christians theyve
wronged, they enable each other to obey Christs instruction
to forgive each other and also help each other to worship
acceptably to God. Mark 11:25-26 tells us Jesus said,
And
whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone,
forgive him, that your Father in heaven may forgive
you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive,
neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses. Notice that God holds
each Christian responsible to have a willingness to forgive.
On one occasion (recorded in
Luke 17:1-10) Jesus explains to His disciples that it is
impossible for people to never commit sins, but woe to the one
who causes others to sin. And then He tells them, If your brother or sister
in Gods family does something wrong, warn them.
If they are sorry for what they did, forgive them.
Even if they do something wrong to you seven times in one
day, but they say they are sorry each time, you should forgive
them. (verses
3 & 4, ERV) Jesus then tells them a parable illustrating
that part of the service He requires from them is forgiving those
who repent.
On another occasion (recorded
in Matthew 18:21-35) Peter comes to Jesus and asks point-blank,
Lord,
how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?
Up to seven times?
(verses 21, NKJV) Perhaps Peter is hoping that accepting
someone's repentance seven times is Jesus upper limit on
forgivenss. Or, perhaps he understands Jesus is using seven
symbolically with its Jewish meaning of completeness or perfection.
Either way, Peter wants to know when enough is enough
when we can be completely done accepting someone's repentance
who has wronged us, quit seeking to forgive them, and start wanting
to condemn & punish them. In the next verse, Jesus
replies, I
do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times
seven. We
are to forgive completely to the degree of complete times ten.
Forgive totally consistantly every time into infinity.
In other words, we are to seek accepting the other persons
repentance and forgiving him or her as often as it takes
just like the Lord seeks accepting our repentance and forgiving
us as often as it takes.
In the next few verses Jesus explains
His point with a parable about a servant who owed his master
an incredibly huge & unpayable debt of about 150,000 years
worth of standard wages. When the master commanded that
he, his family, and all he had be sold to pay towards the debt,
the servant humbled himself before his master begging, Master,
have patience with me, and I will repay all. Moved
with compassion, the master released him and forgave him the
entire huge debt. Yet this same servant then refused to
be lenient with his fellow servant about a very small & very
payable debt of only one hundred days wages, throwing him
into prison. Other servants told the master about what
was happening. The master confronted the first servant
calling him wicked, questioned his lack of compassion in light
of the tremendous compassion shown to him, and then delivered
him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due the
master. Jesus then says, So My heavenly Father also will do to
you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother
his trespasses.
Any Christian man or Christian
woman who refuses to practice forgiveness runs the risk of God
refusing to forgive him or her. Remember also, as we saw
indication earlier, that when Christians confess sins done against
others, their confession carries an oath promising to repent
from doing those sins. Certainly this repentant attitude
should make it easier for us to forgive other Christians when
they ask us to forgive them, for them to forgive us, and for
us to encourage each other to forgive.
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Weve seen that the Christians
confession of God includes, but is much more than, telling God
how he or she has been wronging God. Weve seen that
some circumstances and reasons are appropriate for Christians
to confess their sins to other people, especially other Christians.
How often is this to be done? Is it appropriate for
Christians to confess their sins to anyone and everyone?
I see at least three elements common
in the instructions concerning confession of sins to one another
One element
is aiming for godly improvement and spiritual growth
to restore a broken relationship, to right a unforgiven wrong
with an apology, to request informed help, to encourage repentance
and growth, to clarify a harmful misunderstanding, etc. In
other words, when one Christian wrongs another Christian, and
then confesses that sin to the one he wronged and requests forgiveness
& prayers on his behalf, the good result God desires is for
both Christians to draw closer to Him and to each other.
A second element
is that those being confessed to about a specific sin either
already have a prior knowledge about that sin or else have a
concerned interest about that sins effects or else both;
i.e. someone who knows or cares or does both. When
we confess a sin to God, He already has both a prior knowledge
about that sin and a prior concern for us about that sins
consequences. He wants to help us stop that sin, fix the
damages, and do better in the future. When we confess a
sin to other Christians for prayers, they should already have
a prior concern for our spiritual well-being and the damage sin
can cause us. When we confess specific sins to other Christians
that weve wronged, they are probably already aware of the
sins, but our confession lets them know of our desire to repent
plus allows them honest opportunity to forgive us.
A third element
is that the sins being confessed are as-yet unforgiven sins
forgiven sins of the past are sometimes discussed as factual
matters of history, but they are not apologized for again. There
is no need to request confession or forgiveness for a sin that
has already been forgiven. To do so would actually deny
Gods willingness and ability to forgive sin, and would
also falsely judge fellow Christians willingness and efforts
to obey God.
For one example of men of God applying
these elements in action, lets briefly consider the apostle
Paul in the New Testament.
At the end of Acts chapter seven,
we read about a Christian named Stephen who is stoned for his
faith and we are introduced to the young man Saul (his Jewish
name whom we also know by his Roman name, Paul), who helps
out with the stoning by watching the garments and valuables of
others involved. At the beginning of chapter eight, we
are told that Saul consented to Stephens death
its
important we understand that his attitude and actions make him
as guilty of killing this godly man as those who actually threw
the rocks. In verse three, we learn how Saul made havoc of the church,
entering every house, and dragging off men and women, committing
them to prison.
In Acts 9:1 & 2, we see Saul, still breathing threats and murder
against the disciples of the Lord, went to the high priest and
asked letters from him to the synagogues of Damascus, so that
if he found any who were of the Way, whether men or women, he
might bring them bound to Jerusalem.
This man was a murderer of Christians and a cruel persecutor
of Christs church
thats what the man did before
he became a believer in Christ later in that same chapter.
When this man, Saul / Paul, later
recounts to an angry mob in Jerusalem (in Acts chapter 22)
the story of how he had persecuted the church and of how he became
a Christian, he mentions the details of his persecuting Christians
simply as historical, undeniable facts to illustrate his point
but he makes no effort to confess these facts as
sins asking forgiveness from the crowd. Why not? Did
the crowd care or disapprove of these past deeds? No, instead
they cared and disapproved that he was teaching Christianity.
Were the people interested in rightly restoring Pauls
relations with God or themselves? No, they wanted to beat
and kill him, not help him do better. Were those people
even in a position to forgive Paul for those sins against Christians?
No, those sins had already been forgiven by God and by
those he had persecuted
Paul needed no one else to forgive
them again. For Paul to have confessed sins and requested
forgiveness from these people would have served no purpose.
Suppose every time Paul preached
to a new congregation of the saved or to a new group of unsaved
souls, he brought forward these past forgiven sins asking those
people for their forgiveness before teaching from Gods
word. Woud this have served Gods purpose for
confession of sins? No. Instead it would have done
great harm by placing a false emphasis on Paul the man and on
a life he no longer lived, and thus distracting his audiences
from what was really important
Gods message for them.
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Summary:
Does man have to confess
his sin to another man? Meaning, if you tell a lie, is
asking God for forgiveness enough? Or do you have to confess
to the person whom you lied to?
As I mentioned earlier, there is
no Bible-based instruction for the denominational practice of
confessing sins to a clergy person or other supervising member
in order to be excused. In the New Testament the only person
we find God authorizing to manage and dispense Gods forgiveness
on His behalf is Jesus Himself. Instead, He expects us
to learn how we are to forgive those who wrong us
in imitation
of how Jesus forgives us (Acts 2:38; Acts 5:27-31; Colossians
3:12).
There certainly are situations
where Christians definitely should confess their sins to God
and to other Christians. Our Lord has provided instructions
concerning how, whom, and why to confess. The goal of His
instructions is to help restore and reconcile the sinners
relationships with Himself and with other Christians. The
sins are confessed to those persons (including God) whose
knowledge and concerned interest of the situation require their
involvement in this process of repentance, restoration, and reconciliation.
Once these sins have been forgiven, there is no Scriptural
reason to keep confessing them.
These instructions also imply why,
in some situations, attempting to confess sins to some people
can be a waste of time and may even cause harm instead of good.
In short, Bible-based confession
involves repentance by the sinner
invites forgiveness from those who already know about and/or
who are affected by the sin
seeks faithful growth in the Lord.
Something else that Gods
instructions for confessing sin suggests, but we didnt
explicitly discuss yet is this
the window of opportunity
for confessing sins to each other is limited.
One limit is simply the feasibility
to confess and request forgiveness from those weve wronged
sometimes its less available than we might like or even
missing altogether.
Where can drunken drivers go to ask forgiveness from the playful
children theyve killed with their cars?
How would all the many con artists, pickpockets, liars, and other
thieves track down their nameless victims to seek forgiveness?
How would a wealthy family who cheated on its taxes seek forgiveness
from a genuinely needy family whose assistance was turned down
due to lack of funding?
How might those killed through their own sins request any forgiveness
from those they left behind?
By what appropriate means could all the new Christians pursue
forgiveness from all the people theyve wronged in their
past before becoming Christians?
How does one track down and seek forgiveness from those from
another time and place whom he or she had refused to forgive?
Another limit is available time
sooner or later it runs out. Everyday we see people separated
by changes in their locations, ambitions, and choices and eventually
by physical death. How many opportunities to acknowledge
a mistake, tell of heart-felt love, or even show a simple kindness
are passed by because of stubborness to forgive or refusal to
repent or selfish inconsideration? Opportunities vainly
sought by telling an empty room or a cold tombstone thoughtful
words humbly spoken too late?
What can we do when we can not
go to those weve wronged? When weve lost our
opportunity to request and receive forgiveness from them?
We can ask God to forgive us.
We can ask fellow Christians for their prayers asking God to
forgive us.
We can then demonstrate our confession by working with
God and our family in Christ to forsake those sins leaving them
behind us.
Fortunately, we can trust Him at
His word to forgive us. But, as Psalm 28 reminds us, if
we wait too long, we can lose that opportunity as well. How
many people have gone to their own graves before realizing theyve
run out of time to repent and to confess?
Psalm
28
1 To You I will cry, O
Lord my Rock: Do not be silent to me,
Lest, if You are silent to me,
I become like those who go down
to the pit.
2 Hear the voice of my
supplications
When I cry to You,
When I lift up my hands toward Your holy
sanctuary.
3 Do not take me away with
the wicked
And with the workers of iniquity,
Who speak peace to their neighbors,
But evil is in their hearts.
4 Give them according to
their deeds,
And according to the wickedness of their
endeavors;
Give them according to the work of their
hands;
Render to them what they deserve.
5 Because they do not regard
the works of the Lord,
Nor the operation of His hands,
He shall destroy them
And not build them up.
6 Blessed be the Lord,
Because He has heard the voice of my
supplications!
7 The Lord is my strength
and my shield;
My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped;
Therefore my heart greatly rejoices,
And with my song I will praise Him.
8 The Lord is their strength,
And He is the saving refuge of His anointed.
9 Save Your people,
And bless Your inheritance;
Shepherd them also,
And bear them up forever.
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